Texting Guide — by 45 Book Summaries
One number runs all four programs, and you steer every one of them by text. No login, no form, no app. Here's every word it understands.
Text
Forget all of this and text MENU — you'll get the short list back, built around the programs you're actually in.
Name the program, say what you want, add the value. That's it:
GRATITUDE TIME 7am
Leave the program name off and it applies to whatever you're running, so plain PROFILE shows all of it and plain PAUSE holds all of it. Case doesn't matter. Neither does punctuation.
| Verb | What it does |
|---|---|
| PROFILE | See what’s set, and where you are in it |
| NOW | Send this week’s or today’s text right away |
| UPDATE | Change one setting — see each program below |
| TIME | Change the hour a daily text arrives (the two daily programs) |
| SKIP | Skip only the next one |
| PAUSE | Stop the texts and keep your place |
| RESUME | Start the texts again where you left off |
| RESTART | Erase your answers and start from the beginning again. The setup questions come back, exactly as a new signup gets them, and your history stays saved |
| OFF | Leave this one program, keep the others |
| Text this | What happens |
|---|---|
| MENU | Which programs you’re in, where each one stands, and the short list of what you can text them. It’s the word on the bottom of every text, so it works from anywhere — including when you can’t remember which programs are yours. |
| PROFILE | Every program you’re in. In just one? The whole record for it — every setting, and what’s still blank. |
| PAUSE | Stops everything. Nothing sends until you text RESUME. Your place is saved. |
| RESUME | Starts it all again, picking up where you left off. |
| HELP | The same thing MENU gives. It’s a carrier keyword, so your phone company answers it first with its own line about rates and STOP — which means HELP costs you two texts and MENU costs one. |
| STOP | Ends every message from this number. One confirmation, then silence. |
| START | Turns texts back on after a STOP. |
One prompt a day for thirty days. Text back three good things and you get a short reflection.
| Text this | What happens |
|---|---|
| GRATITUDE | Where you are in the thirty days, plus what you can text. |
| GRATITUDE PROFILE | Everything saved about you here, and how to change any of it. |
| GRATITUDE TIME 7am | Changes the hour your daily prompt arrives. Any format works — 7am, 8:30pm, 19:00. Add a zone if we guessed wrong: TIME 7am ET. Text TIME on its own and we’ll ask what time you want. |
| GRATITUDE NOW | Sends today’s prompt right now instead of waiting. The one that was coming won’t double up. |
| GRATITUDE SKIP | Skips only the next prompt. Nothing else moves, and you don’t lose a day. |
| GRATITUDE PAUSE | Stops the prompts and keeps your place. |
| GRATITUDE RESUME | Starts the prompts again at the day you were on. Also the fix if prompts quietly stopped arriving. |
| GRATITUDE RECAP | Sends a summary of your last few entries right now, instead of waiting for the weekly one. |
| GRATITUDE RESTART | Erases your settings and starts from the beginning again, back to day 1 of thirty. Your name and your prompt time reset to the defaults, so you set them again the way a new signup does. Your old entries stay saved. |
| GRATITUDE OFF | Leaves this program only. Your other texts keep coming. Plain STOP ends every program at once. |
| Field | What it sets | Example |
|---|---|---|
| TIME | The hour your daily prompt arrives | GRATITUDE UPDATE TIME 7am |
| NAME | What we call you | GRATITUDE UPDATE NAME Alex |
Daily nudges for one habit you pick, in your own words, for up to thirty days. Each day’s text is written that day, from how your run is actually going — text back after each rep and the messages get smarter.
| Text this | What happens |
|---|---|
| HABIT | What you’re building, when the nudges come, and what you can text. |
| HABIT PROFILE | Everything saved about your habit, and how to change any of it. |
| HABIT read 10 pages | Switches the habit part way through, without erasing anything or starting your days over. |
| HABIT TIME 6am | Changes the hour your daily nudge arrives. Text TIME on its own and we’ll ask what time you want. Anything else can ride along right after the time: TIME 8pm, right after I plug my phone in. We’ll take both halves. |
| HABIT NOW | Sends today’s nudge right now. |
| HABIT RECAP | Your progress in numbers: the count, the streak, and the pattern in your misses. |
| HABIT SKIP | Skips only the next nudge and leaves the rest alone. |
| HABIT PAUSE | Stops the nudges and keeps your place. RESUME starts them again. |
| HABIT RESUME | Starts the nudges again where you left off. Also the fix if nudges quietly stopped arriving. |
| HABIT RESTART | Erases your answers and starts from the beginning again. We ask what you’re building, when and where you’ll do it, the two-minute version, and who knows about it — the same questions as your first day. Length and frequency go back to the defaults, and your old check-ins stay saved. |
| HABIT OFF | Leaves this program only. Plain STOP ends every program at once. |
| Field | What it sets | Example |
|---|---|---|
| TIME | The hour your nudge arrives | HABIT UPDATE TIME 6am |
| HABIT | What you’re building | HABIT UPDATE HABIT walk after dinner |
| DAYS | How often — DAILY, WEEKDAYS, 3XWEEK, or WEEKLY | HABIT UPDATE DAYS WEEKDAYS |
| LENGTH | How many days it lasts, 1 to 60 | HABIT UPDATE LENGTH 30 |
| CUE | The when-and-where the habit hooks to | HABIT UPDATE CUE after coffee, kitchen table |
| SMALL | The two-minute version for bad days | HABIT UPDATE SMALL read one page |
| REWARD | The small reward after each rep | HABIT UPDATE REWARD one episode after |
| WITNESS | Who knows you’re doing this | HABIT UPDATE WITNESS Sami |
| STAKE | What missing twice in a row costs you | HABIT UPDATE STAKE $20 to a cause I hate |
A short list of family-friendly things to do near you, once a week.
| Text this | What happens |
|---|---|
| EVENTS | What the weekly picks are tuned to, and what you can text. |
| EVENTS PROFILE | Everything saved about your family, your notes read back in full, and how to change any of it. |
| EVENTS NOW | Scouts your area and texts this week’s ideas within a few minutes, instead of waiting for your send day. |
| IDEAS more outdoors, less crafts | Tunes next week’s picks. Plain words work — the IDEAS prefix just makes sure it lands here. |
| EVENTS SKIP | Skips only next week. We tell you the date it starts again. |
| EVENTS PAUSE | Stops the weekly text until you text RESUME. |
| EVENTS RESTART | Erases your ZIP code, your family details, and every note you’ve sent, then asks where to look — the same question a new signup gets. You stay subscribed the whole time. |
| EVENTS OFF | Leaves this program only. Plain STOP ends every program at once. |
| Field | What it sets | Example |
|---|---|---|
| ZIP | Where to look | EVENTS UPDATE ZIP 78749 |
| NAME | What we call you | EVENTS UPDATE NAME Alex |
| KIDS | Ages, so the picks fit | EVENTS UPDATE KIDS 4 and 7 |
| LIKES | What to lean toward | EVENTS UPDATE LIKES parks, water, free |
| DISLIKES | What to skip | EVENTS UPDATE DISLIKES anything past 8pm |
| WHEN | The hours you can actually get out — picks stay inside them | EVENTS UPDATE WHEN weeknights after 5 |
| NOTES | Anything else, in your words — adds to the same pile IDEAS writes to, and nothing you’ve said gets dropped to make room | EVENTS UPDATE NOTES they love trains |
One scouted date idea a week — a show in town, a new spot, or a night in done right — plus two quick backup plans.
| Text this | What happens |
|---|---|
| DATE | What the picks are tuned to, and what you can text. |
| DATE PROFILE | Everything saved about you two, your notes read back in full, and how to change any of it. |
| DATE NOW | Scouts and texts an idea within a few minutes, instead of waiting for Monday. |
| Loved it, more live music | Any plain reply to a Date Idea Agent text is feedback. Next week leans that way. |
| DATE SKIP | Skips only next week. We tell you the date it starts again. |
| DATE PAUSE | Stops the weekly idea until you text RESUME. |
| DATE RESTART | Erases your ZIP code, your partner’s name, and everything you’ve told us about what you two like, then asks where to look — the same question a new signup gets. You stay subscribed the whole time. |
| DATE OFF | Leaves this program only. Plain STOP ends every program at once. |
| Field | What it sets | Example |
|---|---|---|
| ZIP | Where to look | DATE UPDATE ZIP 78749 |
| NAME | You — the one doing the planning | DATE UPDATE NAME Alex |
| PARTNER | Them — the one being taken out | DATE UPDATE PARTNER Sami |
| RELATIONSHIP | Wife, husband, girlfriend, partner | DATE UPDATE RELATIONSHIP wife |
| BUDGET | What a night out should cost | DATE UPDATE BUDGET under $60 |
| LIKES | Food you love | DATE UPDATE LIKES tacos, good pizza |
| DISLIKES | Food to skip | DATE UPDATE DISLIKES sushi, anything spicy |
| MUSIC | What you’d actually go see | DATE UPDATE MUSIC country, blues |
| DRINKS | YES or NO — NO keeps bars and breweries out entirely | DATE UPDATE DRINKS no |
| DRIVE | How far you’ll go | DATE UPDATE DRIVE 20 minutes |
| WHEN | The nights you actually get out | DATE UPDATE WHEN Friday after 7 |
| KIDS | YES or NO — YES means a sitter is part of the plan | DATE UPDATE KIDS yes |
| NOTES | Anything else, in your words — adds to what’s there, and nothing you’ve said gets dropped to make room | DATE UPDATE NOTES anniversary in June |
Real answers start with command words all the time. "Time with my kids" is a gratitude entry. "Menu planning finally clicked" is a gratitude entry. So a command word on its own only counts as a command when it's the whole message, or when a program name comes first.
When something's genuinely ambiguous, we ask instead of guessing. And if a command doesn't take, nothing changes — you'll get a reply telling you what shape it wanted.
These programs are free. Message and data rates may apply. Each program is a separate sign-up — joining one is never joining another. Consent is not a condition of any purchase or service, and every tool on this site works in full without a phone number.